Ever since I can remember, I have cared so much about people to the point where it can drive me a little nuts. I am always worrying about somebody or something, and I often put others before myself. The simple act of caring to much, used to give me such terrible anxiety (and sometimes still does) so bad it would get to the point where I would be terrified to tell somebody if I didn’t want to do something.
I unfortunately experience a lot of the physical side effects of anxiety when it creeps up, and it takes such a toll on my body. It can put me out for a few days, and lately I have been sick and tired of this happening. I needed to look into doing something for myself to make myself feel whole and healthy again.
I am ALWAYS worrying about people; if they are okay, if they are upset, if they need me… the list goes on and on and on. This caring for people too much started with just family, then the over caring trickled into my friendships and relationships, and even more so recently, it has started to take over my life at my job, and once this started happening I became mentally drained very quickly. It wasn’t until I discovered infographics, other blogs, Pinterest posts all dedicated to this lovely thing called self care.
Self Care is the act of taking care of yourself, you are putting your own personal needs before the needs of others. It is so important to take a few minutes a day to practice self care! I try and set aside an evening when I know I’ll be alone to take care of myself and reflect on my current situations.
A few ways I practice self care…..
Reading: a few pages can turn into hours and hours of reading, I get lost in books. This is a great way for me to tune out and focus on doing something productive for myself. Not only does reading keep my brain sharp, but its a few hours that I’m not staring at an electronic device, so for me, thats a bonus in itself.
Meditation: I use an app on my phone called Smiling Minds. It was free in the iOS App store, I try and set aside a few minutes a week to meditate. It is recommended that you meditate every single day, but sometimes for me its just not something I remember, but I do set aside at least one day to focus on meditation.
Colouring: I picked up a few colouring books from my local bookstore, and once I get started, I get absolutely lost. It is so relaxing.
Guided Journaling: As I’ve talked about in previous blog posts, I love to do guided journaling. It gives me time to reflect on things that I normally would not look into. I get a better understanding of my life and where I am at mentally. A check in every now and then has huge benefits.
“You can’t pour from an empty cup”, is a quote I have had the pleasure of reading and reminding myself several times thanks to many forms of social media. This quote speaks to me in so many ways because of its truth, you need to take care of yourself in order to be able to care for others! If you aren’t practicing this yet, give it a try! Try and set aside one day a week to practice self care, for me its #selfcaresunday! Whenever I am extremely anxious, or having a really bad day I try to take some time to do one of the self care tactics that I stated above, I notice a huge difference in my overall mood and physical well being.